Well apparently women like to judge each other. No surprise there, right? Even better: Moms like to judge other moms.
In an article by Rebecca Dube, nearly 90% of moms judge other moms, for everything from breast feeding habits to how they deal with their kids. One mom said motherhood is “a competition nobody meant to enter.”
What? Why?
Seems pretty ridiculous, but we are human after all. 1 in 5 moms will judge someone for choosing not to breast feed, while 43% of moms think breast feeding after the child is 3 years old is “too long.”
Bratty kids (wow, that’s a lot of moms being judged!), overweight children, or a child who watches too much TV also have mommies who aren’t just so liked.
The affects of mom judging can lead to anti-social behavior, says one mom in Canada who doesn’t pal around with other moms because of feeling “inferior.”
Really? 
I guess I understand it, especially as a woman. We judge each other all the time. If a girl is pretty, we just assume she’s dumb. If she’s unattractive, we just assume she must be really smart or a loser. If someone’s skinny, they don’t eat enough and if they’re fat, they eat too much. It’s pretty effed up, if you think about it.
But in a crashing economy, violence, the world seeming upside down most days, maybe it’s an escape?
That’s what parenting expert Wendy Mogel thinks. Controlling your choices as a parent is much easier to think about rather than worrying about what’s going on that can’t be controlled.
I’ve gotta admit though, just be the parent you think is best: and do the best you can. Do I have any room to talk about this? Hell no. I’m not a mom yet. But I can tell you that judging each other isn’t going to make our children’s lives any easier. If we’re expecting them to have this beautiful world of caring-and-sharing, how can we pass that on if we’re giving every other mom the stink eye?
Check out what comedian Louis CK has to say about raising his two girls – who, by the way – he devotes 115% of his attention to when he has them in his split custody arrangement. No phone calls, no agents, no acts, no TV shows. And he is not apologetic for any of that.
